“Don’t let them see you cry.”
“Don’t show anyone how you feel because they will hurt you.”
Do these phrases sound familiar? These are things that many of us are told by parents, teachers, and society when we are growing up. The intention behind it may have been good — they want us to be “strong” — but most of the time, these ideas actually do more harm than good.
When you refuse to show emotion, it’s essentially your Ego trying to “protect” you, because deep down you are afraid of other people’s possible judgement. In contrast, displaying vulnerability (who you truly are, what you truly think, and how you truly feel) is absolutely a STRENGTH, not a weakness.
As a Spiritual Advisor and energy healer with over 10 years of experience, I’ve helped hundreds of private clients and online community members work towards the most unapologetic, confident version of themselves by incorporating various techniques from Spiritual Response Therapy (SRT), Spiritual Restructuring (SpR), and Life Between Lives (LBL) hypnotherapy. Below, I’m sharing 3 of the life-changing practices you can also adopt into your own self-love routine.
Free Yourself From Attachment To Any Outcome
In a loud, noisy world, often we can start to believe that we are not good enough to be heard, or to express our genuine emotions. But it’s not true! Sometimes, what you have to say or give is simply not ready to be received by others.
And you know what? That is completely okay. You are responsible for your own words and actions, but how others may or may not react to you is their responsibility, not yours. It is quite literally out of your control what other people will say, do, or think of you, so what good does it do to stress over any of it?
This goes for any situation. When you can learn to detach yourself from any particular outcome (positive or negative), you will experience true liberation and personal peace.
As the saying goes, “What others think of me is none of my business.”
It can feel hard to be vulnerable in a world telling us to “toughen up” and bury our emotions — but always remember, it is this incredible vulnerability that makes you a strong and resilient person!
Remind Yourself Of The Things That Make You Awesome!
In my Facebook community for Spiritual Advising and weekly energy healing sessions, I guide community members through various exercises intended to strengthen their intuition. For one of these exercises, I recently asked the community to tap into their intuition to answer the following question:
“What are 5 things about myself that I’m already SO proud of?”
Your answers may vary of course, but some of the common responses individuals shared for this exercise included:
- Spiritual alignment
- Less judgmental
- The courage to speak up
It’s human nature to focus on the negative above all else (even if a situation is 95% positive and only 5% negative). We do this not only to external things like our jobs and our relationships, but we zero in on our own perceived ‘flaws’ instead of embracing all the good that we are.
Guided intuition exercises like this are a favourite among my community members! Why? Your intuition is one of your most powerful personal tools in this life, if you can learn how to harness its power properly. By practicing listening to your intuition, you will strengthen it and become empowered to listen to it more often.
View Your Emotions As A Measurement
It’s easy to let your emotions colour your world, whether they are positive or negative. When we feel happy or excited, the world seems like a hopeful, inviting place full of opportunity. But when we experience a negative emotion (fear, anxiety, worry, depression, etc) it can feel like our world has been painted grey. Negative emotions can be turned into anxiety and depression sometimes. You can get help from online therapy sites like BetterHelp.com. They have many useful guides and expert profiles.
With the wisdom of Spiritual Guidance, I advise my community members to view their emotions like they might view a thermometer — a measurement they can use to evaluate a situation and see if something needs to be adjusted or changed to return back to a normal, comfortable state.
In other words, Spirit says emotions are essentially a measurement for something we need to pay attention to. Consider the following common examples:
- Worry Before Bed: You may be overly focused on the past or the future, instead of breathing intentionally in the present moment and choosing to just be — right here, right now.
- Anxiety Before A Job Interview (Or Other Opportunity): Surprisingly, adrenaline in a potentially exciting situation can often be misinterpreted by many people as anxiety! Next time you think you feel anxiety, really check in with your emotion — you might be feeling a tense underlying sense of excitement, which is a good thing! Focus on slow, deep breaths and remind yourself that you are grateful the universe has presented this opportunity to you.
- Dread Interacting With Someone: If negative energy seems to float around the air every time you see or talk to a certain someone, your body will start to react to their presence, and this will show up in your emotions. Your logical mind might try to convince you there’s no concrete proof that this person is no good, but your body and emotions are trying to tell you otherwise. Listen to your intuition, and spend less time around this person for the sake of your own well-being.
Your emotions are constantly trying to talk to you. Are you listening to what they are saying (good or bad)? Intuition comes into play here again — the more comfortable you are with following your intuition, the easier it will become to quickly identify your emotions and take appropriate action to return back to a neutral state of mind.
If you need extra help in your personal journey toward a confident sense of self-love that powers all the decisions you make in life moving forward, a Spiritual Advisor can help you identify the energy blocks from your past that are no longer serving you using a mix of techniques from Spiritual Response Therapy, Spiritual Restructuring, and Life Between Lives hypnotherapy.
As your Spiritual Advisor, my goal is to help you become the best version of you and, most of all… enjoy being YOU!